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What's your approach style?

8 honest questions about what you do when you notice someone you'd like to talk to. You get your style, what's holding you back, and three respectful first steps. No sign-up, and your answers never leave your browser.

1. You notice someone you'd like to talk to in a cafe. You...

2. She has headphones in and is working on a laptop.

3. Your opener is usually...

4. She gives short answers and keeps looking around.

5. Talking to strangers in general (shop staff, people at events)?

6. In a conversation, you mostly...

7. She says, sorry, not today.

8. Your social life right now?

Your result

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    How do I get over approach anxiety?

    Practice in small steps. Start by talking to strangers in general (asking directions, chatting to shop staff), then move to compliments and questions with no agenda, then to approaching someone you'd like to meet. The fear tends to shrink as the situation becomes familiar.

    Is it okay to approach a woman in public?

    It can be, if the setting and moment are right and you're respectful. Relaxed places where people are open to a chat are better than someone busy, in a hurry, with headphones in, or somewhere she can't easily leave. Keep it short, give an easy out, and take the first no.

    What should I say when I approach a woman?

    Something honest and simple: say hi, give the real reason (I saw you and wanted to say hello), and your name. Then ask one real question and listen. You don't need a line.